First, I am so sorry for your loss and for what your family is going through right now. I am new to the blog and have not yet introduced myself, but I love the dynamics of the group. I want to tell you about another list on egroups that might help you in your plan. If you subscribe, you should be able to go to their archives or ask the group any questions you have.
They are a great group. There is also another list called OAMC, but I can’t remember if it’s on egroups or not. I have been a member of both at one time and I own a list for the women at my church. I am 40 with one dd8, Kelly, and have been married to the same fellow for 14 years. I will pray for your family. Blessings!